Building Boundaries AFter Betrayal
August 8, 2026, 11:00AM-6:00pm NZST

Betrayal can destabilise a client’s sense of safety, reality, self-trust, agency, and identity. Professionals need to understand the deeper trauma processes that interfere with a client’s ability to know what they need, trust what they know, and act in alignment with their values.

By the end of this training, participants will be able to:

• Describe how betrayal trauma can disrupt a client’s sense of safety, reality, self-trust, agency, and identity.

• Identify why boundary-setting after betrayal is often more complex than simply teaching assertiveness or communication skills.

• Recognise common trauma responses that interfere with a client’s ability to identify, express, and sustain boundaries.

• Differentiate boundaries rooted in safety, values, and self-protection from responses arising from fear, control, reactivity, or survival.

• Apply a trauma-informed lens to assess a client’s readiness and capacity for boundary work.

• Explore the role of safety, empowerment, and values as foundational elements in helping clients rebuild healthy boundaries.

• Identify patterns of self-abandonment, over-functioning, appeasement, collapse, or escalation that may emerge in boundary work after betrayal.

• Use reflective and experiential tools to help clients reconnect with selfhood, agency, and internal clarity.

• Integrate boundary work into betrayal trauma recovery in a way that is clinically grounded, compassionate, and paced to the client’s nervous system capacity.

This training is designed for counsellors, psychotherapists, psychologists, coaches, supervisors, and other professionals who support clients impacted by betrayal trauma, infidelity, compulsive sexual behaviour, relational trauma, attachment injury, and complex relational wounds.

It will be especially relevant for professionals who want a deeper trauma-informed understanding of why clients may struggle to set, hold, or sustain boundaries after betrayal - even when they intellectually understand what they “should” do.

About AArti

Aarti Chidambaram is a counselling psychologist and trauma specialist based in Singapore, with over a decade of experience supporting partners and couples impacted by betrayal trauma, relational rupture, and complex trauma.

She is the first and currently only APSATS Certified Clinical Partner Specialist and Supervisor in Asia, serves on the APSATS Board of Directors as Secretary, and is also an ERCEM Supervisor.

She is the founder of Discovery to Recovery, where she supports individuals, partners, and couples through the journey from discovery to healing.

Aarti is widely known for her work on boundaries in betrayal trauma recovery. Known as the "Partner Whisperer" by clients and colleagues alike, and fondly nicknamed the "Boundary Guru" by Carol "the Coach" Sheets, she has developed a deeply practical, trauma-informed approach to helping partners understand, build, and hold boundaries in the aftermath of betrayal.

Through her workshops, intensives, retreats, and long-running partner support group, Aarti translates complex clinical concepts into compassionate, experiential, and usable tools. Her boundaries work has been presented internationally and is especially valued for helping both professionals and partners understand how boundaries can support protection, dignity, clarity, repair, and post-traumatic growth.

Aarti is also a TEDx speaker and international presenter, contributing to conferences, podcasts, and trainings on betrayal trauma, boundaries, and relational recovery.

Earlybird Price: $375, $400 after 10 July
Student Pricing: $187.50
Location: Online
Date/Time: August 8, 2025, 11am NZST -1:20 pm, followed by a 40 minute break, and then 2:00-4:00pm, followed by a 20 minute break, and then 4:20-6:00pm.

Registration: Click below or email our administrator to register. Upon receipt, you will be sent a confirmation email. A Zoom link will be emailed out a few days before the training.